Yes, yes my birthday was yesterday. Thank you for all the kind birthday wishes and for all the beautiful people who came out to share the evening with me. I love you all and you are all my near and dear friends.
I learned a lot of lessons this past year. For me, love came and went. Jobs came and went. School almost came and went too but I got a good hold of it now.
Most of the lessons I learned were about love and relationships. I became a woman this year. A few quotes from a movie states it best. So here it is, my lesson:
"Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You got to know which is which. And you're always going to mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. They got people that got married to people they were only suppose to be with for a season and wonder why they have so much hell in their life. That was a person that was only suppose to come and teach you one thing. You didn't know it so you just fell in love and now you wonder why you have no peace anywhere you go.
I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people are leaves on a tree. The wind blows, they go to the left. The wind blows from the other way, they go to the right. They are just unstable. You can't count on them for nothing. All they ever do is take from that tree. What you need to understand about a leaf is that it has a season. It'll wither and die and blow away.There ain't no need to be praying over a leaf to be resurrected. When it's dead it's gone. Let it go! Some people are like that. All the leaf ever does is cool you off every now and then. If you're grown, you know what I'm talking about, because you can call them in the middle of the night and get cooled off. That's the leaf people. They come to take. Then there are people like a branch. You got to be careful with branch people. They come in all different shapes and sizes. You never know how strong they will be in your life. So my advice is to tip out on it slowly. When you're going out on a limb, don't put too much weight on it at once, because it can fall and leave you high and dry. Sometimes, you have to wait for a branch to grow up before it can hold all of the things you want to share with it. Finally, there are people who are like roots at the bottom of the tree. If you find yourself two or three people in your entire lifetime that are like the roots, then you are blessed. The roots don't care nothing about being seen. All they're there to do is hold that tree up, to make sure it stays in the air. It comes from the earth to give that tree everything it needs. That's what relationships should be about. That's what you need, people who want to be in your life for the right reasons. If somebody wants to walk out of your life, you've got to LET THEM GO! When you learn to love yourself, you will end up giving standards to everyone around you. Again, I repeat with emphasis, if they don't meet those standards, you have to let them go, because they might be a leaf. And forgive them with all your might."
Madea, Madea Goes to Jail